The COVID-19 pandemic has created an opportunity for a lot of people to spend more time by themselves, in their own space, whether through periods of lockdown or isolation or quarantine. A major part of keeping safe during the pandemic has involved social distancing which has changed the way people date and engage in sexual contact with one another and themselves.
This has created an opportunity for the sexual exploration of the self, through personal intimacy and masturbation as forms of self pleasure, self love and self care. Safe self-sexual exploration and personal intimacy or masturbation can boost the feel-good chemicals in our bodies like dopamine and serotonin (chemicals called neurotransmitters in the brain that give humans a feeling of well-being).
Due to the fact that most sexual acts have been linked to male sexual pleasure and satisfaction, not much thought or exploration has gone into the pleasure of people who fall outside the bounds of cis-heteronormative standards.. This has led to many womxn and gender diverse persons basing their sexual satisfaction on whether or not their partner has reached orgasm or climax. Cultural and societal norms seem to be fixated on male pleasure solely whilst negating and dismissing the existence of womxns pleasure.
One of the ways to rectify these misconceptions and myths about pleasure is to engage in and explore self love through personal intimacy and masturbation. It is through personal intimacy and masturbation that we grant ourselves opportunities to discover our sexual desires, turn-ons and turn-offs, what we would like more of, or less of, what we don’t want at all and what we would like an abundance of, what makes us reach our peak.
Self-pleasure and masturbation also creates a safe space for us to get to know the sexual sides of ourselves more intimately and on a deeper level. When we reach those levels of intimacy with ourselves it lays the foundation for us to expand on and share our self-pleasure with our sexual partner/s in fully consenting ways. To put it lightly, the more pleasure you’re able to experience with and give yourself, the easier it will be to direct your partner to journey with you toward a mindblowing, earth quaking, toe curling, life changing, body shaking orgasm/s.
Masturbation is self-care, self-exploration is a part of self-love and self-intimacy is the gateway to volcanic levels of pleasurable explosions. Once we strip away the shame, fear and societal or cultural views of who pleasure belongs to, we open up a whole new world of magical masturbation, self intimacy and pleasure that unlocks different levels of bodily autonomy and pleasure.